Do you ever feel like as a Mom you have to do everything in your home? Do you feel like you’re a one-person team and need to take it all on?
Most of us Mom’s feel a strong desire to be Wonder Woman, and because of that, we take every single thing on by ourselves! We do this without asking for help, and then find ourselves overwhelmed, drained, and emotionally exhausted at the end of the day – only to start it ALL over again tomorrow!
Are you one of those Moms?
It’s okay to Ask for and Accept help!
When we live our lives and take care of our families with a, “I can do everything” complex, that’s what we end up doing – everything, and before we know it, we’re struggling to breathe because of all of the endless tasks that we have piled on ourselves!
Are we showcasing we’re the best Mom or partner to our loved ones if we end up losing ourselves and our priorities in the process? Are our kids and significant others enjoying how stressed and frazzled we are or do they want something more out of you that you’re not giving them? In any case, I know most of us don’t want to live like this, and we want to change how much we take on and to lower our stress levels that surround our daily lives working as a Mom and wife/partner.
With all of this in mind, our first step in changing our mindset is to believe and accept it’s okay to ask for help!
That’s right; I used the “H” word – help! I know as Supermom’s and wives/partners that we turn the other way when we hear the word “help” because we feel that if we were to ask for or accept the help that we’d be considered weak – but the opposite is true! Asking for help and taking it can lead to less stress! Ask your husband/significant other or your older children to pitch in more!
Below are five ways for Mom’s to alleviate anxiety naturally so they can be the best woman and Mom in their home:
Cut Your To-Do List in Half
One positive step to being the best Mom and wife you can be, without losing your mind and momentum is to look at your to-do list for your week and your day and cut it in half! Put a star behind the tasks that have to get done to help your family live and stay happy, such as washing dishes, doing laundry, or driving your kids to their soccer practice. These are all needed tasks because your family needs to eat, they need clothing to wear and to have a social life.
However, dusting the living room or cleaning the stove every day or every week isn’t a necessity. Sure it makes things look better in your home and makes you feel like you got a lot done, but to be honest, they can wait for another time. Trust me; your family will survive if they have to look at a greasy stove or dust in the home now and then. With these lower priority tasks put aside for another time, you allow yourself to have more time to spend with your children and husband/partner as well as taking care of yourself!
When you take the time to look at your tasks, you may even realize that you are doing chores or errands that you don’t need to do!
Choose a Certain Number of Tasks to Do
As a Mom and woman wearing many hats, the tasks we need to do pile up significantly, and not only does this cause us to delay completing a task we assigned ourselves but can also cause us not to do our best -which could lead to feelings of not feeling well or productive enough. We need to avoid this, and one way to make completing tasks easier on ourselves is to choose up to 10 tasks to do in a week – instead of the 30 jobs we put on ourselves!
Again, you’ll need to decide what are high priority tasks and which ones can wait when doing this. Look at your week in advance, every week, and determine what chores or errands need to get done in the week. Write them down in your calendar, notebook, or elsewhere and then make sure you commit to it! You’d be surprised how choosing which tasks you do instead of doing everything without a plan can help you have a productive week without making you exhausted!
BONUS – Choose How Many Tasks to Do Per Day Too!
A better way to make all of your tasks easier on you is to also choose up to 5 of them to do per day, from the selected weekly tasks. Breaking things down more, allows you to determine what needs to get done and what can honestly wait.
Set a Timer to Complete Low Priority Tasks
Since we still will need to tackle the low priority tasks, we need to figure a way to do so without exhausting us physically and emotionally. One way to accomplish these small tasks easier is to set a 10 – 30-minute timer every day for one specific task.
Setting a timer per task can result in you feeling like you did something productive and being okay with the fact that you don’t need to take all day on your tasks. It’s hard for us, Mom’s, to not clean or do something we think is perfect, but the more productive we feel, the easier that need will diminish. Yes, it can take time, but practice makes progress. Remember – we’re not aiming for perfection anymore!
In addition to asking your family to help you out in your day to day tasks, consider hiring help! You take on SO much already, and it’s completely draining you – to the point where you likely feel you desperately need a vacation!
Hiring a cleaning company, like Maid For You, can do wonders for your emotional health and can help rejuvenate you for when you’re more able to take on your daily tasks again! All of us need a break in life, but asking for help is something most of us refuse to do, but again, let me remind you, asking for help is not a sign of weakness but rather that of strength! Admitting you need help to alleviate your anxiety shows that you know what’s best for you and your family and that how you’re carrying on in life is not working.
Imagine how you’d feel if you hired someone, like Maid For You, to come into your home to do ALL of the laundry for the week – washed, dried, folded, and put away? I can hear your sigh of relief already – and why not?
You already do SO much for your family in the insurmountable tasks and chores you have to do every day – a break like this would only feel heavenly! Consider hiring the same company to do some light cleaning for you as well – things that need to get done every week! Take a week off of home cleaning – with everything you already do; you deserve a break and help!
Ask for Help as a Gift from Your Significant Other
With Valentine’s day around the corner, why not tell your significant other that the only gift you want from them is to consistently help you around the house, or to pay for a home cleaning service for yourself to indulge? A Year Of Free Time is the perfect gift, 1 year worth of cleaning service, ($3900 value biweekly cleaning at $150.00 or ) a gift certificate to Hand and Stone ($100.00 value) bath salts and a natural candle $50.00 value) to alleviate your stress. Can you imagine the release of stress you’d experience with such a gift?
Another great thing you can do for yourself to help lower your anxiety and stress levels from all the things you do in a week is to practice self-care! No one can get things done while running on empty – so take time to stop, breathe, and treat yourself to free time to yourself! Yourself will thank you!
Take a much-needed break or mini-vacation! A break doesn’t mean that you have to spend a lot of money on vacation but to find creative ways to give yourself that break! You could soak in a bubble bath once a week for an hour or more. Instead of tackling chores after supper, go to a class or out with a friend for a night. Or even go to the mall for a whole day!
There are many different ways you can partake in self-care, and all of them will help you feel more relaxed, less overwhelmed, and will give you more energy! Once you start to implement self-care into your routine, you will begin to realize and accept that you already are enough and that keeping a perfect home or being the perfect Mom will not make you the best – taking care of yourself will!
You Already ARE Enough!
If you don’t get everything you feel needs to get done, know that you are STILL enough! Your loved ones believe that -now it’s your turn!
Avoid Burnout by Knowing When to Say “When”
You don’t need to reach burnout as a Mom or significant other! You have the choice to decide how much you do in a week or day, and if you will ask for help from others or hire help – the decision can be your greatest asset to defeating burnout!
Get to know yourself well enough through self-care to be aware of when you’re approaching that dreaded feeling of exhaustion and drowning. Awareness of approaching burnout can be your saving grace in saving your sanity! Follow these five steps to help alleviate your anxiety and see your life change!
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The Christmas season is here, and it’s a special time of year – time of year many look forward to!
It’s a time to gather with family and friends to celebrate the Christmas season while feasting on scrumptious foods, drinks and giving and receiving gifts!
While this can be a joyous occasion, this season can be especially hard on a lot of different people. Some people struggle if they have lost loved ones, are sick and can’t make the festivities, are going through relationship or marital difficulties or changes, don’t get along with their family, and many other reasons involving heartache. The heartache that is felt deeply around an otherwise joyous occasion as a reminder of what they had.
Whatever the reason, this happy occasion can cause some hearts to hurt more than they do regularly because the reminder of joy and gathering is very imminent during the Christmas season.
The Christmas season is a reason to spread joy and kindness to one another. Below are 5 essential traditions to add to your holiday season to help everyone feel the gift of kindness that surrounds us all this holiday season!
Give Back to Others with Kindness
The Christmas season is all about giving and sharing love, so it seems only fitting that giving and sharing love to others would be a paramount tradition to add to your holiday season!
Helping to spread the joy to others during the Christmas season doesn’t need to be elaborate, expensive, or complicated! Set up a Christmas advent calendar where you spend 31 days before Christmas by giving back to others with kindness! Some ideas can include:
Sponsoring a Family in Need
There are many less fortunate families out there who are not financially able to celebrate Christmas, let alone enjoy everyday life, and who face dangers of poverty and sickness.
Choosing to sponsor a family in need is an incredibly kind way of letting someone know that you are there for them and are committed to helping them! Imagine the change you can be in their lives by gifting them the opportunity to be helped and loved by a stranger!
Volunteering at a Soup Kitchen
Another way to give back in kindness to others during the Christmas season is to volunteer at a soup kitchen. This way, you’re able to help prep, cook and serve a healthy, hot cooked Christmas meal to those in need, and also be a friendly face to wish them a “Merry Christmas”!
Many suffering people in shelters don’t have the luxury of eating a home-cooked meal with their loved ones or even themselves, so this is where those of us whocan give back, should!
When your children are old enough, suggest this idea to them as well, to help them learn more about those who need help and how to help!
Paying off Someone’s Layaway or Debt
Give the gift of giving by paying off someone’s layaway account they may have in a retail store, or another kind of debt that they may be in! This act can make someone incredibly happy and can help relieve a lot of stress for them! Do it for a loved one, or better yet – someone you don’t know!
If you have the financial opportunity to purchase a gift for a loved one or a stranger, consider this option as well, because sometimes, not needing to pay off debt is a more thoughtful gift than a physical present!
Gifting a Child or Senior from the Angel Tree
Another loving way to give back in kindness during the Christmas season is to participate in the Angel Tree for children or seniors.
This act of giving back is done by removing one or more Angel gift tags from a Christmas tree that provides the “Angel Tree” program and purchasing gifts for the selected child or senior that match their gender and need category written in the tag.
This act of kindness can really help the following:
A child who is struggling without their parent (or parents) during this time of year
An underprivileged child
A child or family that is hurting or struggling
Someone who is lonely and heartbroken
There are innumerous and creative ways to give back to others with kindness this Christmas season, and you can find out and participate in many more with our Acts of Kindness Advent Calendar, just click on ‘Download’ to save the image AND join us on our Facebook Page to join in on the fun!
This tradition goes back many years and is still a favorite among many people! Caroling isn’t about giving monetary value or help to someone, but instead about spreading joy and the meaning of Christmas through beautiful, joyful song that becomes pleasantly contagious upon hearing it!
There’s something so magical about hearing people sing Christmas carols and feeling that true spirit of Christmas well up in our hearts in a shared celebration!
Gather some friends, family, church members, youth groups, and anyone else who wants to join and go out caroling some night in your city or at a local senior’s home, etc. Watch people’s faces light up as you joyously sing Christmas songs – who knows; they may even join you!
Participate in the Seven Fishes Feast
There’s another fascinating tradition you can add to your Christmas list to do, and that’s to participate in La Viglia dei Natale. Enjoy eating seven different kinds of fish dishes with your family, while commemorating the birth of Jesus – the meaning for Christmas.
What an incredible way to share the love with others in celebration of Christmas!
Set up a Cookie Exchange
Gathering with loved ones while eating delicious food is par for the course when it comes to celebrating Christmas, so why not consider adding a tradition of a cookie exchange? Tell a bunch of people that you’re hosting a cookie exchange in your home and tell them they need to bring a dozen cookies or baking of their choice (handmade is always best!), and everyone swaps their baking goodies with each other.
Exchanging cookies is a fun way to get new recipes, share your delectable recipes, socialize and share in the Christmas season!
Christmas Meals and Gift Giving with Family
Another tradition to add to your Christmas “To Do” list is to spend time with your children and family – intentionally.
Make an effort to bake Christmas cookies, put up the Christmas tree together without fussing and complaining, and to cook a Christmas Day breakfast, lunch, or supper (or all three!). Last but not least, enjoy the moment of giving gifts to your children or loved ones and watch as their faces light up with excitement and joy!
This tradition doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on anyone, but rather, give them intentional gifts – gifts you know they will love – not what you want them to love! Tell your children the focus should be on the gathering and giving the most and less on the gift receiving. Teach your children through this friendly gathering the true meaning of Christmas. This tradition will help your children get into the true Christmas spirit!
Choose and Spread Joy with Kindness this Christmas
There are so many traditions around Christmas time, so it’s essential to choose the ones that will spread joy and the meaning of Christmas to other people!
While sharing and giving love at Christmas time is valuable and thoughtful in sharing the joy and the true spirit of Christmas, consider doing things that give back to others in kindness all year round as well!
The spirit of Christmas will linger in your heart, soul, and mind whenever you give back to others in kindness and with intention, so make sure to follow your Christmas tradition list and go out and have a safe, enjoyable and joyful Christmas season!
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Life is busy – for all of us! Life can get so busy that we forget to smell the roses – literally and figuratively. While being active can be a good thing, being too busy is not.
When was the last time you intentionally took the time to take in the gifts that life has to offer and felt gratitude? Most of us don’t take the time we need to enjoy and appreciate life because of how crazy our schedules are, but we should!
Gratitude is an essential key ingredient to living a healthy, happy life. Below are five benefits of practicing gratitude:
Improved Mental/Emotional Health
The mind is a powerful thing and can change your life significantly! Daily groaning about what we don’t have, or wish we could change speedily results in developing depression and anxiety. When you practice daily gratitude, you lower your risk of prolonged depression and anxiety, or at best, it will be less severe.
Think about it – when you feed your mind unhealthy thoughts, it will create an unhealthy mind! But, what if you were to turn it around and replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts? The same would happen – your mind will receive positive thoughts and will create a positive, healthy mind!
The Power Lies in You
YOU have the power to switch that mindset to be more positive than negative significantly! When you start to be thankful for what you have, you will begin to appreciate the good things in life, and you will derail your focus off the bad things in life. When you think positively, your mind follows suit, and your mind and body will work beautifully together to help you live your best life – so practicing gratitude is essential!
Remind yourself that a mind is a powerful thing, and it reacts to what we feed it!
Improved Physical Health
While feeding your brain with positive thoughts to aid it being healthier makes sense, practicing daily gratitude to improve our physical health isn’t a benefit most of us would consider. However, being aware of what you’re grateful for is exceptionally healthy for your physical well being as well!
In a 2015 Psychology Today article, Amy Morin wrote, “Grateful people experience fewer aches and pains, and they report feeling healthier than other people, according to a 2012 study published in Personality and Individual Differences.”
Here are different physical health side effects you can experience when you practice gratitude:
Improved Immune System
Practicing daily gratitude increases our immune systems; therefore, our bodies get sick less. When we think healthier, we become healthier!
Higher Pain Tolerance
When we add more positive thoughts to our brains, this often results in what’s called “analgesic effects,” which is something in our brains that mimic the relief we get from taking pain medication. When we experience this effect by practicing gratitude, we learn to be less sensitive to pain.
Improved, Natural Sleep
When your physical body is taken care of by practicing gratitude, you increase your chances of getting a great night’s sleep (which typically, most of us don’t understand!), which also carries a host of other health benefits!
Improved Empathy and Care for Others
When we wallow in our self-pity and focus on the things we suffer with or don’t have, we leave no time or room to focus on others and how they are feeling! When we take the time to practice showing thankfulness daily, we become aware of the beauty that life has to offer, and in doing so, we allow our head more room to care for other people.
Also, when we practice gratitude, we give ourselves the option to feel less revenge and aggression towards people who may have hurt us or are hurting us. Our focus becomes on what we’re thankful for, not what we want or think we need.
Improved Self-Esteem and Likeability
Focusing on what we are grateful for every day is a significant boost to our self-esteem! When we are aware of what we’re thankful for and appreciate what we have, we love ourselves more and aspire to be better than we have been! When you realize what you’re grateful for, even if it’s just about who you are, you give yourself grace and love in areas you never did before – and it shows to other people!
When your self-esteem increases, your likeability meter does so as well! People want to be that which they see, so if you show them something positive and healthy, they will want to be around you more! Now, I’m not saying that popularity and being accepted is the goal here. But it should be about loving and accepting yourself for you, first, but think of the people you can positively impact how you go through life – humble, confident and likable!
Increased Life Span
When we practice gratitude daily, intentionally, we reap all the benefits mentioned in this article, and more! In turn, all of these healthy, positive, life-changing benefits allow us to live our best life – LONGER! That’s right, practicing gratitude will enable you to live longer!
The less physically and emotionally sick we are, the better chance we have to survive this life a lot more! That’s quite an incredible, “life-changing” (pun intended) benefit! Knowing this benefit it helps us to see just how impactful and critical being grateful daily is!
Practice Gratitude Daily to Live and Love Your Best Life
We truly genuinely take practicing gratitude for granted in our busy lives, but when we are aware of the tremendous benefits being thankful has to offer, we can’t deny how crucial it is to include in our daily lives!
Do you want your chance at your best life? Less stress and depression, less self-hatred and alienation, and less pain? Of course, you do – we ALL do! Practicing gratitude daily can change all of that for you and can quite literally change your life for the better! Take time to smell the roses of life, intentionally!
Take the time each day to sit down and reflect on what you are grateful for, and write it down. Writing it down will have a bonus effect because it will be imprinted in your brain, allowing you to remember that which you’re grateful for often! Change your life by changing your mindset!
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